I’ve never really said the phrase “soft life”, and that’s probably because I don’t live much of a soft life. For the longest time, I have placed high standards on myself, I set goals, and I push myself to achieve them. I’m serious about my goals, and I live a structured life – but that focus on being a go-getter or the perfect version of myself has prevented me from living a soft life at times. From the outside I look like I have my shit together, I work out, eat healthy, drink green juices regularly. I barely drink alcohol, and I live a drama free lifestyle. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy the healthy lifestyle, but I push myself to my limits – I don’t always allow myself to let go and completely enjoy life, or I take things too seriously.

The reason is because I spent years living in chaos, drama filled relationships, friendships, and experiences with low self-esteem and little self-understanding. Now, at my level of awareness, being anything other than serious about my peace of mind is hard for me. But then it means I have been unable to experience a softer life in certain aspects.

With that being said though, I don’t think it’s about me having a “soft life” I think I need to incorporate a “gentle life” being gentle on myself, giving myself permission to take rest days, and accept that it’s okay to be spontaneous and less structured.

-Erykah.A

Ways to be gentler on yourself: 

• Self-care days
• Evening baths 
• Rest days (from life/gym) 
• Self-massages
• Fun/playful days