• Soft Life or Gentle Life?

    I’ve never really said the phrase “soft life”, and that’s probably because I don’t live much of a soft life. For the longest time, I have placed high standards on myself, I set goals, and I push myself to achieve them. I’m serious about my goals, and I live a structured life – but that…

  • Forgiveness

    “For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?” – bell hooks Forgiveness is a difficult choice because some people cause us so much pain and disappointment…

  • God’s Intentions

    It is true that things become clear as we age. I’m now starting to see the woman God intended me to be. Whilst I still have moments of confusion, I have more moments of clarity and understanding.  Looking at the things I’ve experienced, I can see how they have shaped me into the woman I…

  • Control 

    “Very often people will use anger to cover their fear. When you’re angry, you’re in control. But when you are afraid, you’re vulnerable. Most people think it’s safer to be in control than to be vulnerable.” – Iyanla Vanzant I don’t think my need for control will ever disappear because my anxiety and perfectionism are…

  • Change

    “When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.” – Iyanla Vanzant Change does not always come with ease. I am currently in the process of creating change in my life, and I am finding it overwhelming, but…